Every mother has experienced mom guilt at least once in their parenting journey. I know I have and quite a few times I might add. Here are a few things I did to not feel guilty when I had other things to do.
What Is Mom Guilt?
My definition of mom guilt is when you put your baby down to do other things and if it takes a long time you can start to feel guilty about not paying the baby as much attention. The baby is still within sight and you still feel this way.
I really struggled with this as I worked from home for 1 year when my baby was born, once she started becoming more aware I suddenly felt guilty when I worked so I started to think of ways that I could still get work done and not feel this sense of guilt. I felt this way on weekends when I had a little cleaning around the house to do.
Try To Get Things Done While The Baby Sleeps
You always hear people tell you to sleep when the baby sleeps. While I will advocate for this in the beginning, after a while it starts to become impractical. There are still other things that need to be done: laundry, household chores and cleaning. I’d take the occasional nap with the baby but for the most part I tried to get as many things done while she was asleep.
Babies take lots of naps ranging from 1-2 hours (my baby at least). I’d utilize this time to get my work done and when she was awake the work stopped until the next time she napped. Eventually, I started doing my work at night so I didn’t have to stress about getting it done during the day.
There might have been a chore that I needed to do when the baby was awake. If this was the case I tried to bring the baby along and talk and sing to her while I was cleaning (for example). I started doing this a lot more once she could crawl around and stand up a little. It was fun for her to crawl around on the floor or use the tub to stand up. The biggest tip I have is get a much done as possible during nap times, it may not always work out and don’t stress out if it doesn’t.
Have Your Significant Other Watch The Baby
Another thing I would do is get my husband to watch the baby. I had to wait until he was home at the end of the day or on the weekend. That way the baby is still being tended to while you are getting your stuff done. There is no guilt involved with this one. I took advantage of this every so often.
The Guilt Eventually Subsides
I wouldn’t say it goes away completely but it does subside after a while. You have to just tell yourself that the majority of your time is spent with the baby so if you have to do other things for an hour or two it’s no big deal. I had to tell myself this more than once and it helped.
Your baby doesn’t resent you for setting him down to get other things done. Eventually the baby will get old enough to play a little on his own.
Did you experience mom guilt? How did you over come it? I would love to know in the comments below.
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