I know what you’re thinking. That I’ve been going on an on about babies on every other post but what about the mommies. This blog is called Mommy Minute after all. So in this post I’m going to talk about mommies and daddies (but mostly mommies, nothing personal) getting some time to themselves without the baby that you’ve been doting on for the last X amount of time.
Worried About Leaving Baby To Do Something For Yourself?
Is the thought you leaving your baby with someone for the first time producing some slight anxiety? Maybe you don’t have to go out for dinner after all, or get your hair done, or go shopping in peace. Put these thoughts aside and go.
The first time I left my daughter I left her with my mom to go get my hair cut. It was only a couple of hours. I knew that she was in good hands but I kept asking myself if I really needed that haircut. I eventually told myself that yes I actually do need that cut since it had been over 1 year since my last one (please don’t judge me).
I was trying to talk myself out of it, not because I didn’t trust who I was leaving her with but because what if she needed me while I was gone. What if she started crying and my mom couldn’t get her to stop. Thousands of what if scenarios went through my mind. But I finally stopped listening and went to get it done. And guess what? It was fine. She got to spend time with her grandma which her grandma loved and also got to see what it was like when I wasn’t around.
Trust me the baby won’t resent you one bit if you go out for dinner for a couple hours.
What If The Baby Cries As You Leave, You Ask?
This could happen depending on the age of the baby. If you do a long goodbye and your baby is old enough to understand that you’re leaving the baby will probably cry. That’s why you can’t to a long, sad goodbye, if you say goodbye at all make it quick and be gone. I snuck away as my baby was playing and it took her a while to notice I was even gone. This approach could also work for you.
I have also been babysitting and babies/toddlers would cry a little when the parents would leave but then you distract them with a toy and all is well again.
Your Baby Gets Used To Being With Someone Else
After a few times of leaving your baby to have some you time the baby gets used to and might even enjoy being cared of or by someone other than you. Why don’t I shove that knife into your heart a little more, you say? It’s not a bad thing (the baby getting used to being with someone else. Not the knife in your heart).
I hate to break it to you but there will come a time when you won’t be able to spend every waking moment with the baby. Wouldn’t it be nice if when this time comes they are used to being around other people? Now I seriously need to practice what I preach with this one. I’ll admit I have not left my baby in anyone else’s care enough.
Gives Mom Time To Relax
Whether you want to go out for dinner with your significant other or take a nice leisurely bubble bath in peace it is good to have some time to yourself every now and again. It lets you re-charge your batteries and maybe have an adult conversation. Maybe a couples dinner where you can re-connect and talk to each other without the other little voice chiming in.
Whatever it is its important that you get a little break and enjoy yourself doing what you want to do.
There Are Other People Who Will Gladly Babysit
I’m sure your parents, in-laws, friends and other family members that are chomping at the bit to be able to have some time with the little one all to themselves. You just have to take advantage of the opportunity. The baby will see that you come back and every time you leave and come back the easier it gets.
How was it the first time you left your little one? I would love to know in the comments below.
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