My daughter was born in December 2016. During the past year I’ve learned some things and have some wisdom to share. These are some of my experiences. Hopefully I provide some insight and I’m sure others can relate.
The First Month: Trying To Figure It Out
Ahhh! That first month. It’s a time when you have no idea what you are doing. It took me close to 15 minutes to change a diaper in the beginning. Breastfeeding was a challenge, getting used to waking up every 2 hours to feed the baby, and then repeat.
That first month seems to fly by and go by slowly all at the same time. It turned out I was clueless (even though I felt prepared).
If you feel this way you are not alone! Everyone feels this way. I’ve even had people who have more than one child tell me they feel this way every time they have a new baby. Hang in there! Everything will be fine, I promise.
You worry if the baby is eating enough and as long as there isn’t a latch problem or a severe tongue or lip tie the baby is getting enough to eat and you all your fears will be gone after the baby has a couple check ups and is gaining weight like a champ.
One day you will realize you’ve gone pro! Officially made it to the major leagues. Changing diapers in the blink of an eye, breastfeeding (or bottle feeding) like nobody’s business and gradually getting a little more sleep as the days go by. You are doing well so keep up the good work!
Before I had my baby I was aware that moms were judged all the time by strangers and certain family members and I was even guilty of doing some of that. But until you’re in a certain situation you see how wrong you were. And I was not prepared for all the judgments I would receive.
The first one happened when we were checking out of the hospital after having the baby. It was a cold day and I had the baby all snug in her car seat with a blanket over her and had put on my car seat cover.
The nurse looked at me and said with a very harsh tone, “It’s winter time you need a heavier cover than the one you have. When you bring the baby outside and it’s windy she could lose her breath. You need to use a heavy blanket.” The tone that was used was one of frustration. Like she had told me many times and I wasn’t getting it.
However, I understand that nurses are under pressure. And then that same nurse nearly yelled at me because I didn’t have the baby secured tight enough in the car seat. So I got her to check it and then was happy when she told me it was tight enough after all. I understand that nurses are under pressure but I was a brand new Mom and had no clue and a little understanding would have been nice.
Human beings are judge one another. If they make any comments, whether it be random strangers or family members, take their suggestions with a grain of salt. You know what is best for your family and baby and continue on. There are many ways of doing things and sometimes other people think they know best or their way is better.
The Joyful Moments
It’s true what they say. You cherish every single moment with your little one. The first cry after their born, the first smile, laugh, word and their first steps. Nothing in life can compare to the feeling you get when you see those things.
My daughter has done them many times by now and it still makes me smile even after the 100th time. It makes all those hard nights in the beginning worth it and you never get tired of it.
I still get a thrill taking my daughter to the swings and watching the excitement in her face when I start pushing her. I think those are some of the best times with her. Being out in the sunshine on a warm day and seeing how happy she is.
Baby playgroups are fun. I took my daughter to a free one at the local library. It’s neat to see how the babies interact with one another and my little one got a kick out of seeing all the other babies around her age. You get to sing songs and the parents get to enjoy some adult conversation for a change.
The Not So Joyful Moments
All parents have been there. You’re out running errands and all of a sudden the baby has had it and with no warning you get the dreaded crying in a public setting. One of your nightmares is quickly becoming a reality. It feels like everybody is looking at you and giving you dirty looks and whispering to each other.
This happened to me more than once but thankfully I was with my husband and I got the heck out of there. But some are not so lucky and are on their own. Just finish what you are doing and then leave. Or drop everything and leave.
Some people are looking at you but not everyone is. It will happen it’s only a matter of time but when it does happen don’t stress out about everyone around you. They won’t even remember.
A Few Things to Remember
Parenting is a hard job but it’s also a very rewarding one, full of ups and downs, twists and turns but at the end of the day you wouldn’t change a thing. You know what’s best for your family. Don’t feel like you’re doing it all wrong.
As long as the baby is healthy and happy you must be doing something right. Soon enough they will be grown and you will be looking back on these times thinking that you did have it together all along and didn’t even realize it.
Did you have similar experiences? Did you experience something I didn’t touch on? Feel free to leave a comment down below. I would love to know.